​So just how do you ‘Get over it’?

​So just how do you ‘Get over it’?

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How do you deal with emotional pain? Do you just grit your teeth and get on with it? Maybe you hold on to it and end up stewing inside? Or perhaps you attack the thing that you believe has caused you so much pain? The problem with all of these approaches is that they could have a negative impact on your ability to move forward in life.

Difficult emotions can change with time but they don’t go away by simply ignoring them. If they’re not dealt with properly they can lead you into problems with relationships, unpredictable behaviour and even initiate a fall into depression. Emotions are also amoral. This means that their ability to motivate you isn’t tied to your conscience. If you unleash your feelings without any thought you could easily end up doing something that you’ll later deeply regret. Knowing how to ‘get over it’ offers you much better options going forward.

So what should we do when we find ourselves in complete turmoil after an experience that’s hurt us? How do we get over it?

Make space to get over it.

The process that we go through to ‘get over it’ is quite personal. It’s best to withdraw from the situation to give yourself time to figure things out and find your emotional balance. If we keep engaging with the same situation then it’s likely we’ll just continue to feel the same emotions.

Once you have made space for your recovery, consider the following motivational strategies. They’ll help you to process your feelings and ultimately get you back on track with your life:

1. Don’t draw any big conclusions

You wouldn’t want to sit an important exam whilst experiencing a nagging toothache, right? Similarly when your emotions are in flux it isn’t the right time to try to come to a fixed point of view on anything. Getting a clear idea of what just happened can come later. For now just give yourself breathing space and time to recover. You don’t want ideas in your head that may impact on your potential for future happiness. Any conclusions that you form at this point are likely to be just a reaction to what you’re going through and probably way off the mark.

2. Express yourself creatively

You can always choose to release your feelings in a constructive way. Applying your feelings to a positive activity should provide some relief and give you time to rediscover your emotional balance. You might consider expressing how you feel through art, sport or even supporting others through a similar experience. Again, this won’t necessarily give you the insights that you need to recover but it should make the journey easier.

3. Reflect

Talking to someone about how you are feeling is one of the best ways to dispel confusion and uncertainty. A practitioner of one of many talking therapies can help you to see what occurred and find the clarity to move forward with your life.  Alternatively, writing down how you feel and reading it back over is also a useful way to gain insight. Remember that, although tough to get through, difficult experiences can be the gateway to really great things.

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