Wouldn’t you love to be that celebrity? You know the one. Super cool! Always seem like they can handle anything. They’ve got unshakeable confidence, right?
Yeah, it’s not true and you probably know it. If you’d put in their amount of professional practice then you’d also know how to handle the limelight. Beyond that they’re just people who also have to deal with crises of confidence, the same as we all do.
It doesn’t matter who you are. We all have our moments.
There are times in life when we can find ourselves spiralling into anxiety. We’re becoming more and more aware that it’s the reality for all of us. Some of us deal with it better than others. Some of us hide it better than others.
But we all experience it. We’re all on the spectrum. At one end we have a few doubts which we find a way to deal with. Being at the other end can be crippling.
We may have trouble functioning and our behaviour might become erratic.
So how can we overcome anxiety and stop freaking out?
If you think about it, it’s natural to have doubts. If we didn’t doubt then we wouldn’t be able to adjust. That’s not ideal in a world where things are constantly changing. No, we need that ability to reassess what we’re doing – so we shouldn’t knock it.
The source of the problem is that many of our doubts are actually subconscious feelings, meaning we might not be fully aware that we’re even experiencing them.
But it’s important that we do. So to get our attention they just begin to increase in intensity. Building and building until.. well until we feel like we’re actually freaking out!
But let’s be clear, it’s not our subconscious’s fault. It’s ours. We’re just not listening.
It’s often down to not being conscious of the sentiments arising within us.
Don’t get me wrong though. I’m not saying we’re being ignorant. It’s more that we don’t really realise that we need to listen. We believe we should be able to just go about our lives confidently. Just like we thought that celebrity did.
But the truth is that us humans need time to reflect. It’s the only way we can overcome our anxiety.
So take some time to find calmness and identify what you’re feeling.
There’s many ways you can do this. Practicing mindfulness, keeping a journal or hiring a specialist are all really good options. Whatever you choose to do, what’s most important is that you make it a part of your regular routine.
The more you recognise your emotions the less they will dominate you.
As you become more and more in tune with what you’re feeling, you’ll start to see the benefits in your life. You’ll not just overcome your anxiety, your performance will improve. You’ll think more clearly and feel more peaceful. You won’t react so much. You’ll be in control. And you’ll certainly feel more confident.
You may even become a bit of a celebrity!
Let me know how this helped…